Someone asked in a comment yesterday - How did you get your pre-baby body back? Also, I have noticed that this is a seriously heavily searched term on google! Everyone is always talking about how to get your body back after a baby or babies, and it’s GOT TO STOP. There is no going back y’all. Like in life for anything ever. There is only ever moving forward.
Many of you have been asking me lately, for more tips on working from home while watching & raising kids, and how to do it all.
The truth is, I have no f*cking clue how to do it.
Every day I struggle with it at some point or another, every day I disappoint myself with feeling like I didn’t have enough time for my child, not having enough time for myself, and I get up the next day and try again.
Do you remember the days when everyone still wore a watch? When you could check the time and not have your phone right there in your pocket. I vaguely remember those days, but I do remember this very special watch I owned many years ago.
Ticks. Nobody likes them. People ask us constantly what do we use for tick repellent. Honestly we haven't used anything. Our method is checking our bodies multiple times a day and being aware of tiny things crawling on our bodies. Frank and I have both experienced waking up from a deep sleep to a tick crawling across us and woke up in the middle of the night to see it.
I shared a post the other day about the benefits of sunshine on our bodies. I’m still reeling about some of the negative comments on there. I just assumed the sun benefits and how we really really need sun on our skin was old news. Maybe it’s the circles I run in. The other thing I’m reeling from is how straight up mean people can be in their comments. Like woah. The interesting part here is that I highly doubt any of these same people would ever say the same things to my face. Sure maybe we’d have a discussion on the topic but I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be called dumb and told to go listen to a doctor to my face.
I’ve gotten a slew of questions lately about sun protection and how do I monitor how much sun my kids are getting. We need the sunshine people!! Like literally need it to live. Just like all of the living things on this planet.
remember when my friend Kristin sent me these pictures. She had come over when I was just a few days postpartum to capture the magic and she had been at the birth as well. When I saw this picture, I felt so much body shame I decided I would never share it. In that time I couldn’t see this strong powerful body that had just grown a healthy 9 lb baby boy and birthed at home, surrounded by an incredible birth team.
Why is there so much shame around the mother’s body? Or any body for that matter? Why is there an entire industry around “getting your back body before baby?”
I’m guilty of this just as much as the next person. More than once, people have said nearby me after I’ve just birthed babies in days past or weeks past, “I wonder when the body goes back to normal” like I’m not right there and can hear exactly what’s being said.
The number one question I get constantly is some variation of where do I look for homeschooling resources? I have no idea where to start, can you tell me all of your favorite links and resources? Or I’m so scared to homeschool my child because I don’t know how they’ll turn out. Or how do you start? I’m going against my entire family by deciding to keep my child out of school and I need your help.
Beauty to me means learning how to feel better in our bodies. It means healing through conditions that once held us back or currently hold us back. It means embracing our aging areas and choosing to see how it only makes us more wise and beautiful.